| You learned the first 3 stages of online dating in the | | | | see what kind of clothes they wear, what their room |
| first part of this two part article. Now onto the final | | | | looks like, see their animals or kids if they have any, |
| stages 4-7.Stage 4In this stage, you exchange your | | | | and much more. It finally humanizes online dating and |
| MSN, AOL, Yahoo, or your personal Instant | | | | makes it all worth it and real.If you don't have a |
| Messenger addresses so you can talk together in real | | | | webcam go get one. The best webcam in the world |
| time with each other.What does this stage mean? | | | | is the Logitech Orbitz webcam. I have it, because I |
| Plenty! Now, we're starting to get somewhere and | | | | use it for business a lot. You can get it at Best Buy |
| see how the person's sense of humor is, personality, | | | | or Circuit City for like $125 or buy it online for like |
| how sensitive they are, how intelligent they are, and | | | | $100, plus a cheap webcam you can get now for like |
| they're basically on the spot with you.Before, when | | | | $40 so no excuses ok.If you're in a relationship or |
| you exchanged emails with them thru the dating site | | | | want to try really to get to know someone from a |
| or thru personal email, it was NOT in real time. | | | | distance and possibly start a long distance |
| Meaning that person could've had to read your email | | | | relationship, then this is a must. I know from a lot of |
| 5 times to actually understand or get it, then ask | | | | experience. Long term relationships can work (still a |
| some of their friends how to respond back to it, and | | | | minority percentage) but webcam is the only way, |
| it could take them days or even weeks to | | | | because you forget kind of what that person looks |
| respond.Now, in this 4th stage, the chemistry (or lack | | | | like even with pictures, and I can't stress that |
| of it) starts to show its ugly head. Because now it's | | | | enough.Best advice, when guys ask and they will if |
| in real time, so you can see how slow or quick-witted | | | | you have a webcam be choosy who you say yes to, |
| they are. Are they selfish? Do they talk only about | | | | ok. Only say yes after you get to know them some |
| themselves or about you? Do they get your jokes? | | | | and you feel comfortable. Many guys that are just |
| Do they get offended easily, or are they very | | | | looking for free porn or strip show will ask you that |
| sensitive? Are they open sexually and like to talk | | | | in an email or instant chat right away which you may |
| about their own experiences, likes/dislikes, and their | | | | have noticed.Stage 7In this, the final stage, you finally |
| own sexuality.Plus they can see when you're online or | | | | meet in person either meeting at a bar, coffee shop, |
| not and can IM you whenever they want!! How many | | | | restaurant, club, or wherever if you meet. If it's long |
| times do you get annoying pop windows from people | | | | distance-which has been mostly my own personal |
| IMing you that you don't know? I know I do! Well, it | | | | experience then you need to decide on who's flying |
| could be that person you gave it to but you found | | | | or driving to see who and the arrangements.What |
| out they weren't mister or misses right!Stage 5In this | | | | does this mean? Everything! Webcams don't always |
| stage, you exchange phone numbers and now the | | | | give you the best and most realistic images of a |
| offline relationship goes offline, and they can contact | | | | person. They wont show you if the person has a |
| you 24/7 even when you're not on your | | | | bad complexion, has acne, how hairy they are, has |
| computer.What does this stage mean? It's big. Now, | | | | lots of freckles or moles (not a bad thing just |
| you can call them anytime you want or vice versa | | | | saying), bad teeth, bad hair, or bad skin.You're also |
| when they're drunk, happy, mad, stressed out, | | | | going to find out-which you can't from webcam-how |
| depressed, etc. You finally get to hear what they | | | | they taste, how soft their lips are, how they feel, |
| sound like which could be a good or bad thing. It | | | | how soft their skin is, how warm or cold their body |
| proves to each of you that you're both real and | | | | is, how they smell, if they have bad breath or good |
| actually the gender you claimed to be! Seriously, the | | | | breath, how soft their hair is, and how gorgeous their |
| stories I have heard about guys and gals pretending | | | | eyes and face really are.After all the talk online and |
| to be of the opposite sex. Messed up crap, I tell | | | | on the phone, you will also finally get to see their |
| you!They can now call you ten times a day and also | | | | actions in person. For example, if a man says that he |
| text you a dozen more! If things get ugly, changing | | | | is a gentleman, does he really open every door and |
| your phone number is one huge pain in the butt and | | | | car door for you always?Does he order for you, but |
| inconvenience-at least it would be for me. It would | | | | ask you first what you're going to get?Does he pay |
| be catastrophic if, as a business owner, you use your | | | | for everything?Are they really as affectionate as |
| cell phone as your office line, so don't give that out | | | | they say in public or private?Do they dress sharp like |
| easily.Side Note: There could be another stage in | | | | they say?Do they have manners? Do they pay |
| between 5 and 6 for exchanging mailing addresses if | | | | attention to you when you're talking?Do they just |
| one or both of you wanted to send a card or | | | | stare at your body?Do they only talk about |
| something to each other. Now you're telling that | | | | themselves?Do they really have their own house or |
| person exactly where you live so, again, big step if | | | | apartment?Do they have the car they say they |
| you're a woman for safety reasons.Stage 6In this | | | | did?If you understand fully and follow these simple |
| stage, both of you or one of you gets on webcam | | | | steps, it will make the online dating and meeting |
| for the other person to see you in real time and | | | | experience much more enjoyable I promise. Take it |
| finally see it's a real live person.What does this mean? | | | | from someone that has been on more online dating |
| Almost Everything! You now know the pictures they | | | | sites (35 and counting) then anyone in the |
| had on their profile weren't fake or outdated. It | | | | world.Passionate Ben is an online dating and |
| proves that someone else wasn't on the phone | | | | relationship researcher who has been on more online |
| talking to you before or on some other person's | | | | dating websites than ANYONE in the world. 35 |
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| computer relationship with no living face to go with it | | | | his online radio talk show, infamous blogs, public |
| and now you can see them smile, laugh, giggle, | | | | speaking, and future books in an unconventional, |
| squirm, sneeze, cough, burp, cry, fidget, get mad, | | | | funny, and common sense approach. |