| It doesn't matter who we are, a famous star or just | | | | comparing it to unrealistic examples. |
| ordinary people, we all have things that we don't like | | | | When I am honest with myself, and not obsessing |
| about ourselves. The meteoric rise of the cosmetic | | | | about my hair, there is plenty that I have been |
| surgery industry attests to the fact that there are a | | | | blessed with. One big blessing is my health. I think |
| lot of people who don't like something about | | | | people take their health for granted until it is too late. |
| themselves enough to pay lots of money and go | | | | Trust me! Those I know with health challenges would |
| through immense agony to change it. I was cursed | | | | trade their hair for my health any day. I also have |
| with bad hair. I often look at those models on TV | | | | amazing teeth. I was born with perfect teeth. They |
| and wonder why I didn't get thick, shiny Alberto | | | | are white, strong and straight. People always |
| shampoo hair. But perhaps the problem isn't with hair, | | | | compliment me on them and sometimes think my |
| or whatever you don't like about yourself; perhaps | | | | teeth are capped or otherwise altered, but they're |
| we are comparing ourselves to unreal examples and | | | | mine. |
| focusing too much on what isn't perfect. | | | | I also have fabulous skin. I am not sure why I have |
| I was watching an interview with a super model. The | | | | such great skin because as a young person it was |
| interviewer asked this near perfect woman what she | | | | not uncommon for me to spend hours on the beach |
| didn't like about herself. I was thinking, what was | | | | soaked in baby oil laying on foil trying to get a tan. I |
| there not to like, but she said she didn't like her feet. | | | | don't tan easily, but somehow my skin survived the |
| She had very ugly feet and it really bothered her. At | | | | torture and looks great. So there really are things I |
| first I thought, "Oh please! Couldn't you come up with | | | | have that are good, even great, but I tend to focus |
| something better than that?" But the fact here was | | | | on what I don't like about myself, and I believe there |
| this picture perfect woman who, instead of focusing | | | | lays the problem. Instead of focusing on what you |
| on all that she had going for her, was lamenting | | | | don't like or have, focusing on what you love about |
| about her ugly feet. I saw Cindy Crawford in an | | | | yourself might just give you a different perspective. |
| interview once and they asked her what she said to | | | | We all have great features and we have some not |
| people who lamented that they don't look like her. | | | | so great features. But if all you ever do is focus on |
| She replied, "I don't look like me without all this | | | | what you don't like, that is the only thing you are |
| makeup." So, although Cindy looks perfect when we | | | | ever going to see. If instead of obsessing over |
| see her, it isn't without a lot of help and foundation. | | | | whatever it is you don't like about yourself, focus on |
| Jane Fonda once replied to an interviewer that asked | | | | what you do like and what is good or even great |
| her how she managed to stay looking so good, "I | | | | about you. You are not just your hair, or nose or |
| eat right, exercise and spend lots of money." So | | | | whatever it is you don't like. You are an entire |
| perhaps it isn't that bad hair happens to good people | | | | package made up of lots of great attributes and |
| (or whatever you don't like about yourself). It may | | | | features. Begin to focus on what you like and you will |
| be that we have a lot that is really good. We are | | | | be surprised how those features will begin to |
| just too busy focusing on what we don't like and | | | | become more prominent. |